THE HATE WORD

THE BIG DATING MISTAKE

Well today I made a huge mistake and now Im suffering and I thought maybe I should share my dating mistakes with you and hopefully, you can avoid them.

So, I have been in the same relationship for almost four years and I have been livin with a disease almost my entire life (endometriosis) and its gotten worse the last few years. I am just now having surgery done to 'fix' me. My dr. told me to avod any stress at all costs since it makes my problems much worse. Ive had a hard time with that except for yeserday I was doing so much better.Today was even better it was going super great until...

Me and the boyfriend were seeing one of his friends when his friend said something that is very offensive and hurtful to me. Something I have alot of problems with and I completely went off. My boyfriend says to me "Its a joke I promise I would never do that to you" (referring to what his friend said to me) But  I blew up anyways. "It's not an f'n joke when it hurts a person!!" I said. His friend said "sorry I didnt mean to get you in trouble" That pissed me off worse!

So I got all upset because he said it's just a joke, to me it was the furthest thing from a joke. So then he blew up on me, well I end up having a panic attack in the parking lot (thats what happens when I stress bad) Humilliating! Then we argued for a few hours. I am not an angry person, I do not argue or fight I cant stand it.

But when he gets mad it takes a long time before he calms down enough to talk normal. I can not take someone yelling at me. I have never had to deal with that. Even growing up my parents have never fought, they had arguments but no yelling and breaking things. I am just not good with conflict at all.

So, while he's all yelling at me I freak out and say "I HATE YOUR GUTS!" oh my! I never say  those words, ever. I just dont believe in saying that. But I did. The damage is done.

My tip is: DO NOT  say such strong words if you dont mean it. It can really hurt a relationship. Of course I dont hate him I just really wanted him to stop yelling  and now I've hurt myself by geting o upset that I made myself sick, and hurting someone that I really love. I think hate is just a horrible word. Dont say it unless you really have hate for a person.

"lingerie collection"

I'm a HUGE lingerie fan I alway have been. It's like my favorite thing in the world to wear I'd wear it all the time if I could, but it probably wouldnt be the best idea to go out to eat or shop or pay bills in a baby doll! So, maybe I have a problem with what I thought was my 'collection' actually I didnt see a problem with it at all until a very close friend brought it to my attenion. Ive decided that its ok for a woman to have a thing for lingerie Its not a serious addiction so I will keep adding to my 'collection' (as I like to call it) until the day I die! l.o.l Some people collect rocks, some antiques so why the hell not lingerie?! well I think its perfect and every woman should have at least some kind of 'collection' even if its something small its the perfect way to feel sexy when you just dont feel sexy, really works I swear! and that way everybody wins & thats my advice for the not so sexy days or for the woman who aready has a lingerie 'collection' membership, I say we keep on adding!

THINGS YOU MAY NEVER UNDERSTAND ABOUT WOMEN:

1. Why we 'need' 4 pairs of heels that all look exactly the same to you.

2. Why we never spends any less than and hour on the phone with our girl friends.

3. Why our new lip stick gives us a whole new outlook on everything.

4. Why we must have BIG hair.

5. Why if our shoes dont match we have to change into a completely different out fit

6. Why we own a such thing as clothes for the 'fat' days.

7. Why we need to shower at least once a day.

8. Why its not cool to give us a wedgie.

9. Why we need an extra pair of shoes in our vehicles.

10. How the hell we are able to remember every single thing.

Everything about women

GUIDE TO WOMEN

                                (EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW)

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  Men, you will need a p.m.s. survival kit on hand. this kit will help you be well prepared every 28 days. this kit will include chocolate & lots of it, ice cream,  a bottle of pamprin, plenty of feminine products to avoid those "honey, can you run to the store fo me" moments, and possibly a helmet for the mood swings.                                                  
  
  
  
  
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  Caution: the female can be VERY aggressive, sometimes even violent during this time. Remember to wear a helmet at all times!
  
  
  
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  It probably would not be in your best inerest to invite your parents over for dinner for at leat 72 hours.
  
  
  
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  Also, don't bother asking because, she is 'not in the mood!!'
  
  
  

              
                        
  
                        - 10 things to NEVER say to a woman-

1. You are just being too emotional.
2. You are acting just like my ex girlfriend!
3. when are you due?
4. You are almost as pretty as --- (another girl's name)
5. wanna have a threesome?
6. Wow! it must be your time of the month.
7. who are you kidding, we both know you could never really shoot me.
8. are you sure you want to eat that?!
9. Thanks babe, how much do I owe you? (after sex)
10. I would like to watch you with another woman...

-DATING TIPS, DO'S AND DON'TS-       

Everybody has had at least one of those dates that are just absolutely horrifying, where you just can't wait to get the heck away from the person and immediately block their number from ever calling your cell.I know I have been there a time or two. So from my crazy, expiriences I thought I would give you my dating do's and dont's...

First, blind dates usually never a good idea. To avoid the blind date that looks like he/she has been hit with the ugly stick and then hit again with the even uglier stick (kinda mean sorry) ask for a picture first. Have the person send you a picture from their phone or have the person who is setting you up get a picture for you, just so there aren't any surprises.

The arrogant type.
We have all had those dates where the person seems to be great until you are out with them and they only want to talk about themselves. Never do that on a date! It makes you seem arrogant and full of yourself. Do share things about yourself but try and be subtle for the first couple of dates. I actually went out with a guy that was full of himself. He was very nice but the first 2 dates we were on he kept asking me to ask him questions about himsself. So I asked several simple questions and he answered and said "ok, ask more questions about me." So I asked a few more. He said "anything else you wanna ask?" I said no, Ive heard enough. So later on he says to me "ask me some more questions about myself" So I did and he did the same thing! And the crazy thing was that out of all of the questions there was nothing unique or fun about him he was just a simple guy so I did not get why he thought his life was SO special that he had to tell me everything about him I figured maybe he had alot to share but that wasnt the case he was just a normal guy. The next time I decided to see him he done the very same thing! The entire time he kept telling me "ask me some personal questions" Then he tells me we should run away together and get married! I was thinking ok, you know Absolutely nothing about me because the entire time you'v been to busy telling me about you boring life so how can you want to marry someone that you dont even know! Needless to say I cut him loose real fast!

Then theres the clingy type.
 We all know at least one of those. They constantly need to be around us which is nice to feel wanted but sometimes a woman needs her space! They call or text every 5 minutes. Eventually we say to them "look!,  I can not talk to you I am super busy so when I get a chance I will call you." Then before an hour has passed they start calling again "can you talk yet? are you still busy?" That is just annoying and acting like that alot of times will scare the person off and make you seem needy, and desperate. So if the person says they are busy its best to wait for them to call.

The obnoxious type.
They are very loud and obnoxious. The type of guy that takes you out to dinner and shows you his spaghetti up the nose and out the mouth trick. Talk about embarrassing! Those are the kind that are constantly making jokes and playing 'frat pranks' and that can really get annoying. never put a whoopi cushion under your girl friend's chair cushion or swap her shampoo with urine. Chances are she wont find it funny. Try to tone it down some if you actuall want to see her again.

The controlling type.
Those people dont always lead to a healthy relationship.
They usually end up getting jealous over simple things like a co-worker has the 'hots' for you and they end up trying to control you and often putting your career in jeapordy. Sometimes even leading to abuse. They like to control everything you do and who you do it with. That can cause alot of problems. Make sure to let a person know immediately that YOU are in control of YOU. Then the chances of them controlling you will be smaller but you have to know when its time to leave a relationship like that. You can not always change a person.

The type that just wants sex.
If and when you do run into that one, usually your best bet is to get out quick! Unless you are looking for the same thing or just want a fling. Those kind of people dont fall in love with a woman they fall in love with sex. Hate to be the one to say it but it's true. Many women have been there and often one person ends up wanting more in the relationship and the other not so much. The ones that just want sex are often the ones that will be quick to cheat.